The conversion process gives us some much-needed time in the spiritual desert to really figure things out - the following list is intended to illustrate what I feel are the most effective ways to entirely sap your spiritual life as a Catholic utterly dry, or at the very least, put a brutal dent in it. If you want your spiritual life to grow, avoid the following.
1. Assume that the Church is lost.
Listen to dissidents and others who attack the faith without making sure your own faith is solid enough to handle it. Constantly listen to rants of fundamentalist street preachers on how the Church is the whore of Babylon; give serious consideration to the various invectives levelled against the Church by the National Catholic Reporter. Think of Hans Kung as the best theologian the Church has ever had. Take the objections to the faith on websites like Carm.org very seriously.
By doing this, you can begin to feel isolated, angered at the rank dismemberment of a once-beautiful faith, and assume that the majority of Catholics today are completely out of the ballpark. Any religion begins to look attractive once a few videos of liturgical dance puppets are viewed; furthermore, your faith will take some good, hard, and possibly fatal knocks if you take the standard rants against Catholicism by fundamentalists, those who wish to dismantle the Church from the inside, and anti-Catholics seriously.
2. Be as over-scrupulous as possible.
Scrupulosity is a particular problem amongst us Catholics - indeed, when confronted with the awesome reality of the Real Presence and all that Holy Communion entails, one can become almost acutely aware of their own sinfulness. A healthy regimen of conscience examining is a good and healthy thing - indeed, frequent confession can really aid in rooting out sin and at least placing one's feet on the right path. But if you want to drive yourself into a state of Nietzschean lunacy, dive right into sifting through your every little action with a fine-toothed comb. Consider every sin a mortal one - live in fear. I guarantee that your faith will wither in these kinds of flames.
3. Out with the Mercy, in with the Justice.
Following on the above, begin to take the view that God is merciless - adopt the view that He is a tyrant just drooling at the thought of hurling you into Hell - this will not only kill your faith and your love of God, but it will also lead you into the opposite world of anti-Christianity and worse.
4. Focus on everyone else's spiritual life but your own.
Dissect the spiritual lives of others, and focus on anyone's life but your own. Refuse to work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.
5. Don't engage in intelligent conversation about matters of religion - argue instead.
Debate and discussion are fountains of wisdom - arguments are not. Therefore, anytime your faith is challenged in any way, begin to fume and let that tongue loose. Argue until you pass out in a blue heap on the floor, ignore what the other person is saying, and get yourself as frustrated as possible.
6. Do the bare minimum that is required of you.
Become a lazy Catholic. Start by going to Mass only on Sundays, then work your way down to skipping out sometimes, and before you know it, you'll be showing up only at Christmas and Easter.
7. Don't know your faith.
A great way to let your faith die is by not even knowing it. Avoid reading the Scriptures; ignore the Church Fathers; leave those theology books aside (dusty old things!); refuse to study history. This way, when someone inevitably questions or attacks your faith, you'll buckle immediately and consider other options.
8. Avoid frequent reception of Holy Communion.
Given that we strengthened by the Precious Body and Blood of Christ Himself, it follows that frequent reception of Holy Communion can only aid you in every way possible in your Christian life. Therefore, if you wish to grow weak, avoid receiving Holy Communion. Refuse to go up even when you can, because you will only feel cleansed and whole and absolutely rejuvenated everytime you receive Him.
9. Cower when your faith is challenged - lie, hide, run.
This one is key - whenever your faith is somehow objected to, attacked, slandered, or whichever else, turn tail and run. Better yet, morph into a little quivering ball of apologies and shamefacedness. This will help you to feel false in your faith, unworthy of receiving Holy Communion, and just like a general all-around coward in the end. Sure, there are times and places for defending one's faith and it is not always meet to suddenly mount to get into a heated battle over religion over the dinner table with someone who is merely being rude, say. But if you wish to hurt your faith life severely, I do recommend being a coward about it.
10. DON'T PRAY.
Above all else, if you wish to slaughter your faith, don't pray. Not praying cuts you off from the divine conversation, as it were. It cuts you off from your family in heaven, and from conversing with God Himself. If you really want your faith to die, this is the way to do it. Prayer is the water that keeps that tree of life growing - refuse to water it, and watch it shrivel.

Humbling to realize I do a few of these things even as I feel my own faith losing its liveliness. Thank you for this list, I'll be referring back to it often.
ReplyDeleteIt's funny Anonymous, but I ran into my friend who is a nun the other day, and she said to me, "Jason, were you writing to yourself on there?" with a big smile. ;)
DeleteWe all do these things from time to time friend.
Pax.
You know, it is confusing and scary stepping out in faith and joining a church that is so hated. As much as what you have written is true and RCIA needs to walk through the process of what its going to be like being a Catholic newbie, I would say one of the most important things is for cradle Catholics to take an interest in those of us who are taking some really difficult, wobbly and unsure baby steps into Catholicism.
ReplyDeleteThere needs to be some nurturing us in our infant stage and NOT assume we are mature (Throwing these ten things at me when I was going through the process would have discouraged me! HEY We're NEWBIES--we can't be expected to know what to do with these suggestions).
Even if we were long-time Protestants who know the Bible back and forth, (which tends to really intimidate Catholics) there seems to be a needed stage of just resting in the arms of Mother church with very little expected of us but to be protected and encouraged. (MOM! When's supper? MOM, why is everyone acting like the Eucharist is no big deal? MOM! Why did Father Joe get upset when I said "Michael Voris?") We are walking into a land of giants and strange, mysterious things that frighten us!
I can tell you that most RCIA classes I know of do their own self-nurturing. (And that is good!) But there seems to be this strange glass wall between the cradle Catholics and newbies....
It's a tough world out there for Catholic newbies.... I have been one!
Teresa,
DeleteYou make a good point. I notice that you are a former Seventh-Day Adventist - me too! I was raised SDA (remember FriChik??)...it was a long journey. Good to see other former SDAs out there.
Teresa,
DeleteI really agree with everything you said, I've been studying Catholicism for a year now, but it's only fairly recently that I've started the process of converting and joining the Church. It's a very hard process indeed - I have the added struggle of being eighteen and having to navigate an anti-Catholic family. It's a tough thing to do, at any any age.
JonathanCatholic,
DeleteYes it is hard - I have put up with some tremendous grief over it, but overall I suspect it was a lot easier than the early Christians had it. ;)
Hang in there friend.
Great list. So many of these things are so simple, and tossing them onto your downward slope out of the Church just makes it that much more slippery.
ReplyDeleteIt's true...St. Bernard of Clairvaux writes about similar things in his "On Conversion", but says it much more eloquently, and delves into it all much more deeply. Doctor mellifluus indeed.
DeleteThis is very good, these things happen sometimes without people being aware of whats happening... John of the Cross says another way to get on the wrong track is to pay too much attention to things we're not called to investigate ... at least that's what I perceived him to say... I know not staying focused, causes problems for me...
ReplyDeleteYes, I've heard of that statement before...but I am not sure if it was St. John of the Cross or not. Oh, I know Seraphim of Sarov says it...
DeleteAwesome Top 10 Truths Jason… a great little guide!
ReplyDelete…God's Gift indeed.
I have had some trouble with #2, in reference to "Be[ing] Perfect, even as [my] Father in Heaven is perfect.” (Matthew 5:48). ... a very tall order filled me with fear! I do have a tendency to be over-scrupulous at times... a better measure than not enough I think. It all depends on the motive in our hearts; whether it is to allow the Devil to beat us up through our own personal loathing (false humility), or to allow God to bring us closer to His Sacred Heart. In this present day and age of 'rampant sin' it’s hard not to be over-scrupulous at times, for those of us who grew up without trust, however there is a fine line, I agree we have to follow. When the bitter-sweet Compassion and Joy of Christ is suffocated by a negative self-flagellating, we know we have joined the other side!... I think it all comes down to complete and utter trust and faith in God’s forgiveness and compassion, since we can do nothing without Him. God knows our hearts and our motives. How comforting to know that Jesus has our backs!
"At the very moment when we imagine ourselves to be utterly lost and altogether bereft of His protection, then it is that God in His infinite goodness seeks us out in a special way and takes care of us.” ~ Catechism of the Council of Trent
http://www.catholic-forum.com/saints/stj18019.htm
Love4Gemma,
DeleteTruly. It is very hard for me to not think everything is a mortal sin. It's not a peaceful existence, that's for sure! A healthy awareness of sin is one thing, but it can go way overboard if one is not careful.
God bless you for this post, Idler. You have no idea how timely it is for me!
ReplyDeleteAnd God bless you for even reading it in the first place. I hope it helps - believe me, all these mistakes I have made and continue to make sometimes.
DeletePax+
It grieves me that converts would feel a glass wall between themselves and a lifelong Catholic. (I really hate the term "cradle Catholic" which I explained the reason for at a recent post on my blog.)
ReplyDeleteTo your list I would add, don't go to confession every couple of weeks and forgo spiritual reading. If I had one book to give every newbie, it would be St. Francis de Sales "Introduction to the Devout Life."
I love the Eastern rite chants you have in your sidebar. I attend the Extraordinary Form of the Roman liturgy but appreciate the Eastern rites very much. They are such a blessing to the Church.
Barb,
DeleteYes I agree - that work in particular was very influential and edifying to read.
And yes, the Eastern Rites are indeed a blessing...a hidden treasure even, as so many seem to not even know about them. At heart, I am much more of a Byzantine Catholic than a Roman one at times, then other times I am much more Roman.
Hey jason "idler",
ReplyDeleteThanx for your post...
i think that it is exactly what is happening to me from two - three years ago. I´m losing my faith day by day... before a stronger faith... now... a shit/sith faith.
I think... that I have to be honest with myself and do what I have to do.
Thanx again,
Jesús
Regards from Spain!!
Thank you for your profound and acurate resemblance. This is truly a way to kill your faith.
ReplyDeleteWe like it so that we would ask from you permission to translate it into Spanish and publish it in our blog http://principioscatolicos.blogspot.com devoted to spanish-speaking friends.
You can consult it and make sure that it is really a catholic blog.
We are looking forward to your answer. We don't want to do anything before you consent to it.
God bless you. Regards from Manolo and Ana from Spain.
Hello Manuel,
DeleteYes, by all means go ahead. I am only too appreciative of it. Just don't forget to credit me as the author ;)
God bless, and thanks!
Of course my dear friend. We will credit you as "The Idler" and we will link to your blog, unless you want another way.
ReplyDeleteWhen we publish the post, we will let you know it by a comment.
Thank you for all, and God bless you.
I have just published the traduction of your post. You can reach it clicking in http://principioscatolicos.blogspot.com.es/2012/07/10-consejos-para-perder-la-fe.html
ReplyDeleteI hope you like it. Thank you for all. God bless you.